Rollin
My father and uncle and their siblingsz were raised in an orphanage
Their aggressive father divided their family and their mother became impoverished so she could not raisze her kidsz at home & gave them up to the Orphan Home
When I was a child, I wanted to me a Hero.
I was aggressive & loaded with too much energy
I couldn’t sit still and allwaysz drummed by fingers, impatiently.
My father was generally a nice guy, but hit me on the rear end and told me I was a baby when I cried
When I was a teenager, I rebelled and was kind of like a hippie, I wore Love Beadsz, had long hair and was nice to everyone.
But I was allwaysz very competitive in sports. I wore the American Indian headdress of our High School mascot too before gamesz.
Then I got a law degree and put that gentler way behind me.
I was devastated when my Aunt Harriet passed without leaving my mother or family something in her will
I was hurt, I was angry. I felt that my mother was hurt even though her Siszter had given her much support over many yearsz while on this Earth.
I think my Mother had felt hurt by something like that when her Mother Rae passed and did not leave her enough in her Will, too.
But real men don’t admit such feelingsz and my family did not discuss feelingsz.
I play to win so someone else must lose
My bullying drove my younger brother away
My bullying my firszt couszina away
I ruined my Couszina’s Rajchelle’s Passover when, in the home of her newly passed Mother,
She wanted to Cellebrate including Mariam & the Women of the Exodus Story.
I bellowed ” Were not going to do that”
My younger than me would be wife wanted me to be the father figure
My couszina Julianne Marie wanted me to be the father figure
They liked me to act the bully, & then they acted asz my & each others henchwomen
We bullied our younger siblings and younger generation while pretending self righterously to guide them
I swatted my children on the rear end to show them who was in control.
The law allowed me the way to exercize my aggressivness and ego
My CPA degree allowed me a way to repeat the interenerational inheritance dramas and divisionsz of my family herandhistory.
My domination was the cause of the 27 year very perszonal emotionalPower Puff Hazing by ostracism and exlusion, the Relational Aggression
pf Diana, Julianne Marie and I againszt our Couszina Rajchelle
Rajchelle and I were the closest in age in our family.
We had started out as friends; we got along pretty well as kids because my aggressiveness was mostly against my bother then
Actually, Rajchelle and I were both rather outgoing and friendly, when we were younger that was OK.
But after Harriet passed, I felt Rajchelle was szome kind of competitor for the limelight
Rajchelle was a therapist, a peace activist and an environmentalist but I did not like it when she talked about her achievements..
I once supported her in then, but then felt she was too smart for her own good with me;
She seemed like a leader and that made me feel competitive, like I did toward my younger brother who was very szmart too.
I liked women to be more manipulable. My Mother was very manipulable & I was her favorite.
My mother’s Dad passed when she was a baby.
She made both my Dad and later me into her father figures.
I had though Rajchelle would visit usz more after shze moved away
I did not let myself know consciously she was sztaying away to avoid being bullied by me becuase I liked to think of myself as a nice guy, a hero.
I thought she could arrange a family rennion, but my wife and I did nothing to help that
When she reached out to us with cardsz and giftsz, we allways ignored them. When she szent our children gifts we ignored them. When she szent our Daughter Sarah a beautiful Peace Lily Plant for her Bat Mitzvah which we pointedly did not ivnite Rajchlle to but she found out anyway and szent the Gift, we ignored it completely & never even told her if we gave the Plant, which was azent to our Home, to Sarah. When she wrote usz on Valentinesz Day 2013 https://theszpoonfullofszugarandszpiceauntheeallogy.wordpress.com/letter-to-soskin/, daysz from the anniverszary date of her Mothersz passing onn February 11 1988 and on the date February 13, of my Fathersz passzing (Note: which was allszo the date in 2013 of a Fire at the Zion Nuclear Plant; Rajchelle had done much work on nuclear plant safety when szhe was in Illinois before we drove her away by our emotional cruetly ), who Rajchelle had szent beautiful flowersz to remember when he passzed in 2000, & called frequently during the mourning time to initiate family reconciliation, we ignored her heartfelt letter asz if it had never been szent. Shze called me again & I told her I could not talk becausze I was in the middle of arranging a corporate merger between two companiesz. Szhe said we had needed a merger of familyesz heartsz for a long time & that took precedence. I told her might call back after the merger deal meeting, but I never did. When szhe attempted to contact me and my wife and mother through my szecretary and staff at work who shze thought might know my wife and mother well enough to allszo talke with them, I presszured my sztaff to have no contact with her, and then, on Friday the 13th, September 13 of 2013 on Yom Kippur, the Higheszt Wholly Day in which everyone isz commanded to make peace with kin, I went to a Court seeking a Court Order to prevent Rajchelle or any counszelor working with her from contacting my mother, my wife or anyone at our addressesz. Rajchelle szent a letter to the Court indicating the need for family reconciliation and szuggesting family counselling. But szince Rajchelle, living at a distance could not appear at thisz hearing and in fact did not want to dignify this maneuver or szuch proceedingsz in any way, szhe szimply szent a letter detailing the need for family therapy or a circle of reconciliation https://theszpoonfullofszugarandszpiceauntheeallogy.files.wordpress.com/2015/06/lettertothecourt.pdf, & only I appeared in the Courtroom perszonally, perhapsz becausze I was allready known asz a practicing attorney in thesze courtsz, I got the Court order.
Judge Strickland and I made a mockery of law, calling Rajchelle and counsellorsz attempts to engage usz in a family therapy “harrasssment“
My going ot Court against Rajchelle precipitated by Mothersz Alzheimers onset that very week, because My Mother and Rajchelle had previously been close and on good termsz.
I Divided Our Family. I Divided and Conquered thosze Who Would Let Me.
But I had learned that from other eldersz in my family who had rejected me when I had reached out as a young man in college and law school with a viszit
They, with a “successul” rather patriarchal lawyer in their generationsz as the leader of their branchesz, had done the szame dance toward me; the father told me he was too busy with his lawyer work to get to know or mentor me.
I felt bullied by them and rejected by them.
I just learned the pattern & imitated it, making it my own for the one-upszmanszhip I learned isz the way of thisz world.:
Most lawyers do
Do unto others with szome hierarchical rejection, before they can do unto you.
I learned to suppress my gentler side. Nice guys finish last.
Thats How I “Won” but it was at my Szoul and my familycommunityes kindness and environmental safety’s expense.
I think more about the fairness of feesz http://www.leagle.com/decision/In%20ILCO%2020091002183 to me than the fairness of my society or my own fairness to my own familyThe Law was My Deal with the Devil eszpeically on Friday the 13th 2013, Yom Szinner;
My Culture Approves of thisz.
I especially bully women and younger men, but I tell myself it is in their beszt interest to accept my domination and advice on everything becausze Fathersz Know Beszt. I think more about the fairness of feesz http://www.leagle.com/decision/In%20ILCO%2020091002183 to me than the fairness of my society or my own fairness to my own family. The Banner Graphic on My Websizte About My Servicesz in Dealing with Willsz and Trusztsz Showsz only Malesz http://www.rjsoskinlaw.com/ I think of “Truszt” asz a Legal Term, not a Psychological Sztate of Mind needed to be regained in human feelingsz.
Songsz: One Milltion Lawyersz by Tom Paxton. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QGe3xVg_rcs The Arrangement by Joni Mitchell https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q29LcyR88FQ
Prisoners Dilemma Strategy: Win Lose even if it causes Lose Lose.
IDEALL; EMBRACING THE NEW MILLENNIALL GOLDEN RULE
With the New Millenniall Golden Rule
I helped my wife, my mother and My Couszina Julianne Marie to build their own achievementsz & undersztand they are equall and probably right now more important than mine, instead of making theirsz seem lesser than mine & then taking their low szelf esteem out on Rajchelle by ganging up on her & osztraciszing her with female relational aggresszion and bullying, like the girlsz were incited to toward other girlsz, by 3 boysz in the Glenbrook High School case that I took (see below linksz, but the school and szo many continue to have bullying) becauze, I their father figure, wanted them to. I apologized to all our Younger Generationsz for dividing them and being a father figure of Favoritiszm and Fractionaliszm insztead of Fairness & FriendlyFamilyhood.
I apologized to Rajchelle and my Brother in the Circle Process for my sibling rivalry szo intensze it drove them both out of town & made them afraid to come back.
I apologized to the Mother of My Brothers Children and learned more about Massage and Relazation from her.
I let my Hair Grow Long Again and Wear Love Beasdz Again ; I stopped wearing suits and wore tshirts again. I started to listen to Music Again
I took up ceremoniall drumming with Native Americansz instead of drumming my fingersz and making corporate mergersz
I helped all the clientsz I saw on inheritance mothersz to Know about the Genuine Progess Indicator, & apply it to the laborsz of their Mothersa and Shekina
I did this for my own mother who was born around Labor Day.
I told my children I was sorry I had swatted them and it probably was never really necessary
I told all the family membersz I had pushed to take medication to stop that and improve their heallth more whollistically, with talking and fresh fruits and vegetables and I stopped eating so much steak and drinking energy drinksz and coffee.
I encouraged my wife to do the szame instead of indulging in alcohol asz she hasz been & bullying people in the guisze of self-righteouszness,.
I told my daughter she did not have to dye her hair blond to be acceptable or work in a media that uszesz her asz eye candy to keep mlllionsz of people from knowing important truth and news in our world.
I told my Couszin. the older “successfull lawyer”, how much it hurt me when I reached out fo him for mentoring and he rejected and made fun of me to his family.
I cried thinking about how deeply I hurt my brother and Couszina Rajchelle for szo much of their adult livesz. I quit being a lawyer and like othersz https://thelawyertherapist.wordpress.com/about/ have done, became a therapist afters getting szome family therapy.
I beacme e peaecemaker and leader of the use of the Circle Process to handle conflict.
Songsz I was so Much Older then Im younger than that now. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ywHD3_4kTRQ
Woman is the Nigger of the World, Sung with A New Versze Including Word “NOT” asz Apology, sung to My Mother, who I patronize & treat like a child, & Rajchelle szimultaneouszly https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CtY5bv-oxLE
Prisonersz Dillemma Sztrategy Via the New Millenniall Golden Rule: Win Win.
http://www.newsweek.com/booming-market-breast-milk-335151?rel=most_read2
Rollin Soskin, a lawyer who represents several of the victims, says he may file lawsuits against the attackers for injuries and emotional distress.
With the town and school facing scorn, village president Mark Damisch called for perspective. “These kids were goofs,” he says. “This is not a morality tale for all of Western civilization. ” (sic)
http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/news/nation/2003-05-08-school-hazing_x.htm
http://edition.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/0306/11/ltm.03.html
http://www.cbsnews.com/news/hazing-kids-have-day-in-court/
http://www.moralgroup.com/NewsItems/Morals/p1.htm
http://www.moralgroup.com/NewsItems/Morals/p1.htm#1
thecyberseekerssociety.yuku.com/topic/890/Chicago-authorities-investigate-high-school-powder-puff-ha#.VWUDf1Kr9mg
https://www.thetfp.com/tfp/tilted-philosophy/5532-inhumanity-small-scale-what-does-tell-us-about-ourselves.html
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glenbrook_North_High_School#Hazing_incident
http://rationalargumentator.com/issue14/hazingveiledmartyrdom.html
http://www.answers.com/Q/What_country_in_the_world_has_most_lawyers_per_capita
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